When I arrived to my beautiful cottage in Ireland, I was greeted by two pictures. The first said Good Vibes Only and the second was an outline of a pyramid. I was instantly reminded of the two most important things for any ModWoman CEO to remember…
1. Build a Good Vibe Tribe. As the saying goes: show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. It takes courage to say goodbye to unhealthy relationships so you can usher in new healthy relationships, but when you do life becomes better and reaching your goals becomes that much easier.
2. Intentionally focus on your goal. The image of a pyramid serves as a great reminder to stay focused on that big goal…the dream you came here to live. A great practice is to draw a pyramid, circle the very top point, write your big goal (your dream) in the middle of the circle, and then place it in a room you love so you can look at it every day.
When you live with intention ModWoman, the Universe can’t help but deliver your dream.
It seems the word balance is everywhere. They say, “If you want to be happy being balanced is where it’s at.”
Worklife balance. Balanced relationship. Feeling balanced. Balanced approach to life… What is this balance thing anyway? And is it even possible?
It’s not only possible, it truly is everything they say it is…AMAZING!
Now here’s the deal: balance is not a “thing” to acheive. It’s a state of being. It’s all about energy.
The question is not: are you in balance? The question is: is there there a balance between what you are giving and what you are receiving? This my friend, is the secrect to balance.
If you’re giving energy to a relationship or job without receiving a replenishment of healthy energy back from that relationship or job, you’re not in balance. What you give may be different than what you receive, but the energy needs to be equal in health, intention and authenticity.
To get in balance, I invite you to look closely at your relationships, job and any other activity you might be involved in right now. Are you receiving an equal exhange of healthy energy? Does that experience revive you?
If you answered no, you’re not in balance. In fact, you might be feeling depleted because you’re giving too much. Or worse, you may be in a situation where the other party is taking your energy. That’s another blog for next time.
It’s time to make a decision, ModWoman. Have that conversation. Move to that next chapter in your life. Whatever the change…make it balanced.
I hate to break it to you ModWoman, but one of your super powers is not the ability to mind read.
I know, shocking.
Many women (and men) get into the mind reading habit. Saying things like, “I know what you’re thinking…” Or making assumptions that someone feels a certain way, or has certain preferences, ideas or judgements.
Mind reading can lead to arguments and cause unnecessary stress in relationships.
In fact, the mind reading obsession often turns into drama filled stories with twists and turns and plots that could win an Oscar. But here’s the deal: the movie you’re staring in is just that…a movie, and it’s not based in reality. There’s about 100 things the other person could be thinking about.
That’s not to say your intuition isn’t spot on, but intuition is only effective when you’re in your heart and breathing. Mind reading is when you’re stuck in your head and it’s often driven by ego that can trigger insecurity.
Here are three things you can do to stop mind reading and start cultivating emotionally healthy relationships:
Assume Positive Intent: Assume that the other person has your best interest in mind. You create your realty. Choose to put out good vibes about others and you’ll get good vibes back.
Be Curious: Genuinely ask questions and actively listen to the answers. Become a private investigator who authentically wants to find out good news about the other person or the situation. And be empathetic in the process; he/or she may be going through some tough stuff unrelated to you.
Be Aware: Awareness is key. The moment you catch yourself mind reading call yourself out. The more aware you are of when you’re doing it the easier it is to stop.
I recently had an experience where I engaged in a conversation when I should have just walked away.
Turning the other cheek in this situation would have been the best course of action. But rather than maintaining my normal calm composure, I went in for the kill. Proving my point. And making certain that my side was protected and legitimized. Worse…I did it via email. Ugh.
There’s no regret; I believe everything happens for a reason. After all it’s given me the opportunity to write for all of you.
Wait 24 hours before responding. Magic happens during that 24 hour window. Go ahead and write that email, but don’t send it for 24 hours. When you’re in a place of calm go back and review the massage. 90% of the time it ends up in the trash.
Put your hand on your heart and ask, “Is it my ego that wants to respond right now, or is my desire to react coming from the heart.” If it’s your ego, and it usually is, wait at least 24 hours to send an email or have that conversation. When you’re ready to engage make sure your words and energy are coming from your heart. Words from the heart don’t antagonize and provoke negative reactions from the other person. Words from the heart seek to understand, are curious about the other person’s view and approach the exchange in an emotionally mature way. As you can imagine heart-based responses get better results.
Don’t do anything until you breathe and go for a walk–even if you have to excuse yourself from the room. This is for two reasons: to calm down, and to make sure the emotions you’re experiencing are actually yours. Remember your ModWoman Super Power. Empaths take on the emotions of others, and sometimes it gets us in trouble. During your walk bubble up, clear your energy, and then only re-engage once you’re calm and 100% certain your words are coming from the heart.
There are two types of people in this world: those who spend time dreaming, and those who live their dream.
The difference between these two people is one little word…action. Those who live their dream keep moving, doing and pursuing the very thing they came into this world to do.
Unstoppable. Not a human being or Universal force can stop them. They listen to the depths of their soul, take advice from within, and only surround themselves with light filled beings that support and encourage their quest for a better more satisfying existence.
These are the movers and shakers; rebel girls and maverick women. They keep going. They keep moving. Always in action. Bit by bit. Moment by moment. They live their dream. Never giving up on the most important person in their life…themselves.
There are two types of people in this world: those who spend time dreaming, and those who live their dream. The choice is yours.
Life becomes so much easier once you choose to not take on other people’s emotions as your own.
If you’re a ModWoman CEO, then you’re also an empath. In other words, you feel what other people feel. Whether your colleague is upset, significant other is sad, or family member is hurt, disappointed or frustrated–you have the ability to feel it all.
This is a gift, but it’s only a strength once you learn how to manage your energy.
For many empaths, this empathic super power can be exhausting, even debilitating until the basics of energy management are learned. Here are three energy techniques to get you started:
Bubble Up: Energy is a very real and tangible thing. You feel what other people feel because of the energy they’re putting out into the world. All day every day, imagine yourself in a golden bubble of energy. State the intention that only the highest vibration of light is allowed to come inside your bubble. This will help take the emotional edge off.
Is it yours? Whenever you’re feeling a low-vibe emotion (sad, angry, frustrated, worried, anxious, etc.), put your hand on your heart. Breathe. And ask yourself, “Is this feeling mine?” You’ll get an immediate YES or NO. Don’t second guess yourself. If no, move to step three.
Choose you! Many ModWoman CEOs default to taking care of other people’s emotions before their own. This never works. If you’re going to make it to the top of the pyramid girlfriend, you need to stop trying to fix, carry, take on or take responsibility for other people’s emotions. Here’s a great daily affirmation to start saying: I choose me! I take care of all my needs before addressing the needs of others. I do this because when I’m healthy everything around me becomes healthier!